Hey @MG2879, thank you for sharing your experiences with the community!
Sounds like you and your partner are going through a lot and it seems unfair that you can't get the support you need. It is hard when you are having trouble making ends meet and I have been there myself so I can relate. Not with a partner who needs caring for so that must be really challenging.
I believe the communtiy will have some insights to share with you and thank you for being vulnerable with your peers.
Take care
RiverSeal