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Thanks so much @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander for your recent posts here to let me know that you are there for me. It really does make a difference, I assure you. I havent been logging on over the past week, as I have not been doing too well. But I have been reading your email notifications as they have come in. Thank you ..... so much. @Shaz51 you asked me if I was okay yesterday. I wasn't, but I think I am starting to come through it now.
With regards to hubby, we finally got to see his neurologist yesterday, an hours drive away. The appointment we've been hanging in for over a month. To put it mildly, it was an utter waste of time. More about that when I settle down a bit, when I'm no longer seeing red. I was so angry, upset, let down, frustrated. Hubby is very unwell and it looks like we may need to chase up another neurologist. Likely another few months wait to get in. Will see GP this week and discuss best options.
But as some of you would know since I posted a brief message on Zoe's thread last Monday, my brother and his wife lost their baby. Its been a really difficult week since then, and much has happened.
For those of you who did not catch that brief snippet of information ... My brother and SIL lost their baby during the week. The baby would have been at 14 weeks gestation. Turns out, it was the baby girl they so very much wanted.
They arrived in their city hospital for an ultrasound on Monday, only to get the news from the technician that they could not detect a heartbeat, and that the baby had died. They were told my SIL would need a D&C under a general anaesthetic. They were reluctant to do so and said they'd wait and let things take a more natural course. I think perhaps they were in disbelief at the news and were not ready to accept what they were told.
So they went home again, but on Thursday things were taken out of their hands and they needed to get into hospital by 6am Friday for the D&C procedure. They live out of town, so had to be up at 3am in order to get to the city hospital by 6am. After spending most of the day at the hospital due to some complications, they were finally released and allowed home at around 3pm.
Of all things, their car broke down just after leaving the hospital. Gear box issues and had to wait around for the NRMA. Just what they needed! The car couldn't be fixed so ended up getting towed to a repair place and they had to get someone to pick them up. So they didn't get home until about 7.30pm.
A very long and emotionally draining day for them both. I am so terribly sad for them. It's been such a roller coaster for the pair of them this past month to 6 weeks. The shock of learning they were pregnant. Then the prospect of such an unlikely blessing of a new baby. Then the concern that there may be something wrong and the need to have tests. Getting through the risky 12 week gestation mark and having hope that all was well. Then being told the baby had died. They are both, understandably, very drained and devastated by all that's happened. As we all are.
Do you think bad luck plagues people sometimes? My dear brother seems to have had the worst luck imaginable over the past 4 years. The freak accident which caused the death of his 11yo daughter in August 2015. If only little Emma hadn't insisted on going with her Dad that day to help. She used to love going to work with her Dad. If only they'd headed home moments earlier. If only it hadn't been such a windy cold day. Then perhaps that tree limb would not have chosen that exact time to break off in strong wind and fall onto the cabin of my brothers ute, knocking him senseless and causing him to run off the road. If only that lone small sappling tree had not been on the edge of the road right where the ute ran off. If only passenger door frames did not come with standard (potentially deadly) metal strips which can shear off. Chances, fate ... call it what you will ... it's all so unfair. It was a low impact, slow speed accident which should never have been fatal. Freaky ....... unlucky .......... fate?
Then, last month, for them to discover they were pregnant ... at their age and while taking the pill. What are the chances of that? After initial shock at that news, they started to think that finally their luck was changing, and this was something miraculous. Something that was simply meant to be, a true blessing. Only to lose the baby. Then a car which has always been reliable decides to break down as they leave the hospital after having their dead baby taken from them. Life is so unfair. I feel so unbearably sad for them. I'm depressed. How must they feel? My brother is very vulnerable right now. I have been worried about him all week. He is just so low. No wonder, it seems as though life itself is against him/them. Sometimes life is just way too hard.
I apologise to everyone whom this post went out to prior to me amending it. I never meant to cause any harm or hurt to anyone by my words. I am very sorry. 😢
Sherry 🌸
a corgi laying on me xoxo
