Hi @Former-Member and also @Faith-and-Hope@Shaz51@Maggie@Determined
Thanks for asking Darcy. Its been a very difficult few days.
As you know from my brief msg on another thread, my Dad suffered a stroke on Monday. Apparently a heart arythmia has caused a stack of blood clots to form and travel through Dads body. One went to his brain and caused a stroke. Thankfully that one appears to have cleared with the use of IV clot busting meds. Initially he had no use of left arm, leg or speech.
However there was still a very large clot in his left arm which was completely blocking all blood supply to his lower arm. Yesterday they did emergency surgery under gen anaesthetic to surgically remove the clot. That surgery went well.
His stroke symptoms are much improved now and I was even able to talk to him on the phone tonight. His speech is affected, but I could understand him. But he is still in a fair amount of pain and is confused.
Its so hard not being there for him and my Mum. But they are 7 hours drive away. And hubby is just not well enough for me to leave on his own. His mobility and state of mind have worsened, and he is feeling very insecure and vulnerable as a result. And as (bad) luck would have it, the next 2 weeks hubby has a stack of medical and specialist apts.
I tried to find cheap flights to try to fly down to visit. But as its school holidays, there are no flights available. Unless I spend $1000 and fly via Timbucktoo!
Then, when hubby realised what I was trying to do, he said to me that he would be totally stuffed if I wasnt here for him. So ... How can I possibly go anywhere? This is so hard.
I think my Dad is now out of immediate danger, so I have decided to wait for a couple of weeks and then go visit family. By then I can hopefully pick up an affordable flight, which will permit me to be away for the shortest time possible. And hubbys most vital apts will be done, hopefully he is feeling a little better, and I can organise for someone to stay with him in my absence.
After speaking to his oncologist yesterday, they brought forward hubbys 3 monthly scans, which he had today. Managed to get through that okay. Just hope no nasty surprises as a result.
So thats where I'm at right now. Feeling completely useless, and as though I'm being torn in two.
Sherry 💕
