Oh my goodness. Got a compliment from one of the nurses today. She acknowledged how much work dad is and how I’ve done such a good job at looking after him this year (and mum before that). After she walked out I burst into tears. All I’ve had is criticism from siblings (accept bro4), so finally, someone who knows - she acknowledged that there are many of them there and I was just one, doing everything... wow, this is amazing. Feels so good to be acknowledged.
Took dad out to his regular cafe, got his glasses fixed and got him to choose some fruit & nuts. He enjoyed that, and the coffee custard tart (his fav). Here I was laying in bed thinking it’s all over I can’t do it anymore, but when it comes to helping people / dad, Wonder Woman comes out of nowhere & I pull it off with proficiency, Push through the back pain when normally I can’t and, well, ya do it ‘cause ya have to.
Also took the Hdmi cable & DVD player up to dad today (found the DVD player at salvo for $10), and. Put MASH on for him. Today someone had shaved off dad’s mow too 😞
The beard the other day and now the mow. Had words with them (he’s been there 3/12 - how could they not know that a beard is his thing grr! Took me several times to get the hairdresser to book him in monthly for neck up everything, and she was doing it so I’m cranky. They said they’ll label his charts better for him to have his Captain’s Beard look.. Yeh, believe it when I see it.
Anyway, he seemed ok, more and more stiff each time I see him, hard to manage.
But liked his drive, seemed to remember some things / places... Less the backseat driver than usual today (withdrawn) but still cracked a couple of jokes.
Told one of the nurses he’s “going out of here next week” Interesting he doesn’t say ‘home’ anymore, nor did he ask to turn twd home when we passed his street to home.
Dementia is cruel but sometimes I think he’s better off not knowing what’s going on.
Why am I telling you all this? Lonely I guess... Sorry
